My thought was intimated in the word "intangible." The word is literally "that which cannot be touched." So, that is how it began being used in English in the early 1600s. The word is used, furthermore, now of not only what cannot be touched, but what is inaccessible to the senses.

In the meeting heart-with-heart, not simply person with person, there arises always the sense of the intangible. This intangible eludes us, and may even alarm us and strike fear in us. We may feel uneasy, may seek an escape route.

While we may say we wish for mystery, we tend to run to the familiar, that which we can get the mind around, so to speak. We struggle to stay with the intangible, while we long for it and always know there is always something more than the comfortable certainties we live with. We seek to grab onto the quantitative, while the qualitative evades our pursuit of understanding, for the intangible cannot be known but in the intimacy of knowing itself, not as object, but as presence.

What is this intangible, for I noticed you spoke of only one intangible, the intangible?

Many words are used for it. It itself remains intangible, so to speak of it in any manner is a move from it. We may grab onto a word, an idea, to seek to moor ourselves to the shore of the known. That itself hinder us from being drawn onto the Ocean of Life. So, we live in the details of life, familiar, while our heart longs for more.

The grasping for the known, the familiar, reminds me of a story from the East.

A sage lived near the village, in a hut on the mountain side, and enjoyed coming down among the people often. The villagers drank from water drawn from a well, in the midst of the village. The sage had a dream warning that the waters of the well soon to be poisoned, he was not told how. He was told the poison would make anyone drinking the water insane. The sage informed the villagers. He invited them to walk up the mountain side, to draw water he was informed would be pure, the spring he himself drank from. The people considered him having gone insane. They laughed at the sage. They drank water from the village water. They became insane. After feeling lonely for many months, alone up the mountain side, the sense of isolation seemed unbearable. The sage went down the mountain. He, too, drank the water, and he, too, shared in their insanity.

Our attachment to the known keeps us insane.

Yes, by attaching to the known, the tangible, we are shutting out what our heart most yearns for, the taste of mystery, the un-tangible: the unthinkable, the unpredictable, the unwordable, the unfamiliar. What is tangible is only a small, very small, slice of the Reality cake. Love itself is intangible, and this is a reason many humans long for it and run from it, at the the same time. See, the intangible, also, does not come to us on our terms. We cannot say, "Hey! Mystery! come to me as I've decided you will be." The ego likes control, the intangible will not comply. Yet, this collective insanity becomes the norm, and persons agree with it, partly for they cannot tolerate the aloneness of living with the intangible. So, we settle.

We settle for less.

Again, and again, and again, and all the while complaining, all the while wondering why the inner longing for something more is not assuaged by what we choose.

In relationships, does this mean there is less an array of intimate ones available for one?

Most persons are looking for a relationship grounded in tangibles. Money. Things to do. Places to go. Hobbies. A body one is attracted to. Nothing wrong there. Yet, that is the less, not the more, when that is priority, that is settling for less.

So, I could meet someone I might not appear tangibly compatible with, but the intangible connection would be the something more?

Yes. That will put the tangibles in a less important context, for you embrace the more; your priorities would shift in what you are looking for in work, another person, romance, marriage, life generally. In fact, tell me what someone says they are looking for in a relationship, and that will tell me what their priorities are.

So, as to compatibility, one shifts from tangibles being priority, to intangibles being?

Not intangibles, the intangible. There is only one quality of intangible, only one taste of mystery. As wrote Mooji, in his Vaster than Sky, Greater than Space, of the timeless, intangible of you...

So, this is what you often refer to as being in Love with someone?

Yes, ultimately our longing is to be in Love, meaning, not in love with an object love who loves us in return, but in Love together, held together in a single Love. Usually, when persons refer to this being in love with someone, it is an objective relationship, and often the love is affection, not the intangible quality Love we are speaking of now.

True intimacy never happens between a person and a person, never arises from any individual to or with another individual. Persons cannot tolerate or sustain intimacy. That not a person has no need to tolerate intimacy, for the one essence is naturally, effortlessly intimate. We could say, intimacy arises from Intimacy, so from more subtle than the body with its mental and emotional capacities. In intimacy between or among, Intimacy joins with Intimacy, for Intimacy is a happening by Its own nature. Intimacy, also, arises in varied capacity between human and non-human and non-human with non-human, intimacy being a capacity within of all beings.

My eyes moved through the books, I opened one just taken off the shelf. And opening, the words spoke resoundingly, "We long to expose ourselves." I felt the truth. I tasted the bliss, the joy of exposure.

I see the return to "Eden" is return to the bliss of letting myself be seen, really seen, not with the eyes of matter but the eyes of Spirit. To be open, naked, and seen is the deep yearning of the human, reverberating in all our false intimacies.

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Spirituality, then, is not about hiding so to be safe from being seen, but about coming out of hiding. This does not mean trusting everyone, telling all, but this does mean being moved through the fear into the naked revelation of who you truly are. Then, you do not need to try to be yourself or prove to anyone you are yourself, for you know you are, and that is enough, is Fullness, is Godness.

Those with eyes to see will see the grace of the Light shining through your grand and joyful humbleness. Do not try to be seen, relax into the joy of being.

The Sun shines for the Sun is the Sun. Effort to appear as you are hides who you are. Trust who you are, not what you appear to be.

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Who, or what, is this that you are, not appear to be? We can only point to it, we cannot say it or write it or sing it or paint it or make it show itself. So, Mooji, in Vaster than Sky, Greater than Space, offers wise words of pointing, to draw attention to this timeless you, this untouched Grace...

You may ask, “Does it move about? Does it have a will?”
It is ancient, and yet, it doesn’t feel old.
It was the very same a thousand years ago as it is today.
It is ever smooth, ever fresh.
It is timeless—yesterday, today, and tomorrow
mean nothing to it.

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What does this have to do with Love? Well, do you want an illusion of you to be loved, or you? Would you not rather be loved, than something you pretend to be to be loved? I prefer the risk of being exposed, for I know what is exposed is beautiful to those who see from the Heart. As the Christ said, "That born of the flesh is flesh, that born of the Spirit is spirit." When one truly sees you, they see spirit, they see Spirit. Yet, an effort to be seen is a self-effort and hides that you are an expression of so much more than a single self. So, release any need to be seen.

And any awakening, liberation, enlightenment, salvation is not getting a you that is spirit, but a coming forth of that you have always been and cannot not be ~ spirit of Spirit. So, in seeing you, they see the one spirit, indeed the one Grace, that is the essence of everyone.

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There is no individual spirit. In seeing you, one sees himself or herself, sees everyone. So, true intimacy is a happening that is not individual with individual, but spirit with spirit. And realizing you are that spirit, that Grace, you need not fear anyone seeing you, anyway they are not seeing a you. And in seeing you, the other sees himself or herself, and Love can dance with likeness and likeness, Love and Love.

*The vision statement for Lotus of the Heart is Living in Love beyond Beliefs. These presentations, inclusive in nature, are invitations for persons to explore for himself or herself. Brian does not claim to have answers or the Truth for anyone. He provides pointers to Truth, so as to inspire others on his or her own journey of Truth, to compassionate living with Earth and all creatures sharing this planet.

*All material, unless another source is cited, is authored by the presenter of Lotus of Heart, Brian Kenneth Wilcox, Florida USA. Use of the material is permitted; Brian only requests that credit be given and to be notified at 77ahavah77@gmail.com . Also, for spiritual guidance via phone, Skype, or in-person, Brian can be contacted via the above email.

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The Sacred in Me bows
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